Relationship Bank Account
A relationship bank account is an emotional bank account similar to a regular bank account. In a relationship bank account different actions and attitudes make deposits and withdrawals to and from individuals in the relationship.
(This concept was originally created by Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Payne adapted the concept to better represent deposits and withdrawals for people living in poverty.)
(This concept was originally created by Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Payne adapted the concept to better represent deposits and withdrawals for people living in poverty.)
Deposits
Appreciation for humor and entertainment provided by the individual
Acceptance of the individual cannot say about a person or situation Respect for the demands and priorities of relationships Using the adult voice Assisting with goal setting Identifying options related to available resources Understanding the importance of personal freedom, speech, and individual personality |
Withdrawals
Put-downs or sarcasm about the humor or the individual
Insistence and demands for full explanation about a person or situation Insistence on the middle-class view of relationships Using the parent voice Telling the individual his/her goals Making judgements on the value and availability of resources Assigning pejorative character traits to the individual |